Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts

Sunday, February 20, 2011

does he loves you???

A man in love is a doer, not a talker--whether this means pulling a bunch of wildflowers for you, making you breakfast in bed or putting up with your Aunt Sue when she comes to visit for three weeks. A man in love is not someone you need to spend a lot of time second-guessing: men aren't that complicated.
  1. Watch his behavior. Men in love are probably easier to read than women because they don't spend hours dissecting the relationship with their buddies. A man in love, out of force of habit, will do things to show he cares: pull wildflowers from a meadow in Yosemite, get a tattoo with your name on it, buy your favorite frozen yogurt (extra points for bringing it to you when you didn't ask for it) and spending time with your family.

  2. Pay attention to his body language and facial expressions. If he is scrunched over and scowling, looks bored, is constantly checking his cell phone or similarly distracted or showing annoyed mannerisms, then you know he's not in love. You don't really need someone to tell you that.

    A man in love should be engaged with you, stare deeply into your eyes (unless he's shy, in which case he will look away, but still be engaged with you), touch you lightly on the arm, shoulder or hair and smile when you smile. A man in love feels your rhythm and mirrors it.

  3. Test the waters. It's always best to let the guy tell you he loves you first, but you can gauge his level of interest with comments that question his future interest. If you can't get him to commit to a party you're having a month from now, that's a very bad sign. But if he's already asking if you like to snow ski, and you just met in the late spring, this is a keeper.

  4. Feel his touch. A man in love will touch a woman's face, cradle her chin in his hands or brush a hair from her eye. A man just out for a romp in the sack won't indulge in tender touches such as these, especially out of the bedroom. If he has to at least hold your hand or fingertip in public, he loves you.

  5. Listen to your heart. You'll know if he loves you. The hardest job we have in life is probably letting go of someone who does not love us. We all want to be loved so badly that we oftentimes project feelings and behaviors onto people who don't deserve our adoration. If you are suffering--calling your friends for information, running over every comment he's made or crying yourself to sleep--he does not love you.
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successful marriage..

As with most good things, a long and satisfying marriage takes time and effort - on the part of both spouses. Your reward is happiness of the highest order.
  1. Cherish compatibility. Seek out the things that interest, please and delight both of you.

  2. Respect and treasure your differences. Learn from one another. Appreciate and understand your spouse's distinctive style, approach and personality - especially when it diverges from yours. Differences can often turn into delight.

  3. Cultivate patience. Give your spouse enough time to reach a comfortable middle ground in his or her own way.

  4. Learn how to be understanding, and develop the ability to see through your spouse's eyes.

  5. Share your feelings in regular talk sessions. A nice atmosphere in a good restaurant helps open the doors to intimacy and sharing. Really listen to your partner. Be sure to look directly into the eyes of your loved one.

  6. Strive for a high ratio of positive to negative in comments and actions.

  7. Allow time to pass when you're surprised by a disappointment. Solutions will become evident when there is patience. A good night's sleep will help additional insights to surface.

  8. Resolve the inevitable differences in a way that strengthens and deepens your love. Strive to communicate your feelings without being aggressive or defensive. Listen to each other with an open mind and seek resolutions that you both can be happy with.
  9. Learn to express thankfulness for the smallest things. This gratitude can be brief and must be genuine.
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romantic husband~

Married women often complain of a lack of romance in their marriages. Sure, they know their husbands love them and they may even enjoy an excellent sex life, but they do not feel the romance in the relationship. Many men wonder what they can do to be romantic as a husband. Because men don’t crave romance the way women do, this can be a challenge. However, with a little bit of creativity and thought, any husband can be as romantic as he was when he was courting his wife.
  1. Plan a surprise date night. If you have children, arrange for babysitting, make the reservations at the restaurant and even throw in some movie or theater tickets if there is a good show in town. Tell your wife what to wear, but tell her nothing about where you are going. This is sure to sweep her off of her feet.

  2. Give her flowers for no reason. Women love to be surprised. If it is an important date, like a birthday or anniversary, flowers are expected, but unexpected flowers are one of the most romantic things a husband can do.

  3. Touch your wife frequently in a non-sexual manner. A brief caress, shoulder rub, or even hug can mean so much to your wife, especially if it is not given because you are soliciting something in the bedroom.

  4. Call your wife for no reason, just to say "I love you." If you know she is having a rough or stressful day, call to see how she is and remind her how special she is to you.

  5. Leave notes around your house. If you are not a good writer, buy cards with sayings that reflect your feelings. If your wife is headed out of town, tuck little notes into her suitcase for her to find.

  6. Remember something important to your wife and follow through on it. If you hear your wife mention that she would like to have her hair highlighted, take the initiative and buy her a gift card to her favorite salon. You can then arrange a time when she can go to have the work done. This will show your wife that you are a romantic husband because you pay attention to her wants.
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